Move past imposter syndrome by discovering your superpowers: Restorative

Deb Schell

2 years ago

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Move Past Impostor Syndrome by
Discovering Your Superpower: Restorative

Anyone who’s taken on the challenge of writing a book knows it can bring up many emotions. Thinking about the permanency of a book, leaving a “legacy,” and other “big” thoughts have taken me from my usual state of being an “action-taker” to a complete stop.

I had a breakdown last weekend (I cried a lot and had a tough time being productive). As I reflect on how I’m picking myself back up, I’m sharing my superpowers, aka “strengths,” and how I’m using them to support me in writing Creator to Community Builder, the book I’m working on publishing in 2023.

I shared in the last article that I worked with a YouMap® Coach in 2022 to go through the program, which includes four pillars: strengths, values, preferred skills, and interests. The key to the program is working with a coach to help you review the assessment, align them with the current struggles and challenges, and set a plan of action!

This article will share the strength I “lead or drive with” – Restorative.

Before I share what makes me an incredible problem-solver and how that can sometimes lead to burnout, let me tell you how I can help you!

After working with a coach, I became certified in this program. If you are reading this and want support, please get in touch with me, and let’s chat! I’d love to help you find the work you love and feel a sense of confidence, enthusiasm, and joy for what you’ll be doing in 2023.

Top Strength “Driver”: Restorative

People who lead with restorative are adept at problem-solving, figuring out what’s wrong, and fixing it. This is an executing theme, meaning that it’s all about the “action” and “solving it” for yourself or someone else. This is my “driver” on my YouMap®, evident in my work, life, and experiences.

On the Cliffton Strengths Podcast, an episode in the series “How to Improve your Wellbeing with Restorative,” Jaclynn Robinson describes what this strength looks like when thriving versus struggling by saying, “If you lead with Restorative, you’re at your best when you can work through problems throughout the day. Whether restoring a vintage car, helping a friend through a rough patch, or fixing an incident in your life or the organization, this is where you thrive.”

This applies because I’ve always been a “coach” to my friends and family. When working a corporate job, I talked to my best friend on the 40-minute commute about her and my challenges in life and how I can choose to navigate through them.

Jaclynn says how it relates to others: “When problems arise, friends, family, and colleagues look to you for help. You have a knack for getting at the root cause of a problem and resolving it as quickly as possible. So not only do you resolve the problem, but you restore the wellbeing of the person facing the problem.”

How Restorative can be applied

I can think quickly and fix things, and I am resilient in challenging situations.

Not only do I help restore and resolve problems, I “bring things back to life.”

I am good at figuring out what needs to be fixed and finding solutions.

I help guide people to be healthy and highly functional.

Restorative is an internal executing strength, which means that in my consulting business, I take action and jump in, and I’m the first one to work on getting things done.

The shadow side of this strength for me is that this can lead to taking on too much responsibility on projects or over-committing myself without thinking about the consequences of that “yes,” which should be a “not now” or a “no,” depending on the situation.

In addition, I have learned that not everyone wants a solution; some people (and even myself at times) want to vent, feel heard, and have a voice. This was developed over the past few years of having difficult conversations with friends and family who told me, “Deb, I just want you to listen.” And sometimes, they have told me this over and over again.

In the past two years since I’ve facilitated virtual meetings, I have set a clear picture of the environment for all. When I start a virtual call, I tell others the agenda for the call and the possible outcomes. (Not all times, but ideally, this would be the foundation of every virtual call).

How I convey this to others:

“I’m passionate about bringing people together online in a virtual community and have a background in creating experiences that cultivate conversations. In addition, I have the skill set to help entrepreneurs build, launch, and grow their businesses through online communities. I do this by offering the support they need for a successful community that brings in additional revenue for income diversification.”

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Creator to Community Builder offers time-saving tips for struggling entrepreneurs to establish and scale online communities, enhancing business growth and client connections. Community Strategist Deb Schell shares insights from aiding 60+ business owners, offering stories, strategies, and practical tools to launch thriving communities, ultimately saving money and time.

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